R.A.D. Behaviors and What Causes Them

Any parent of a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) will tell you their behaviors are almost impossible to live with. Those parents can give anyone who will listen a litany of behaviors and/or problems their child has. Most of the time no one believes the parents because the child is such an “angel” inContinue reading “R.A.D. Behaviors and What Causes Them”

Adoptive Parents’ Experience with RAD

As an adoptive parent of a child with unknown Reactive Attachment Disorder, I was never prepared for what my daughter could dish out. I felt like a pilot hitting a fog bank and flying blind. The worst thing is after the diagnosis was finally used in the 1990s, adoptive parents are still flying blind. AsContinue reading “Adoptive Parents’ Experience with RAD”

My Daughter from India with R.A.D. – Her Story

The holidays are over for another year, thank God. Christmas has always been a hard time for me since my daughter arrived from India. There have been times when I wish she could have joined in the fun and not be such a brat. I received a Christmas card and an email from her thisContinue reading “My Daughter from India with R.A.D. – Her Story”

Does Your Child Have Sexualized Behaviors?

Do you know what causes sexualized behaviors in an adopted child? Would you be willing to parent a child with sexualized behaviors? These questions pop up occasionally when I talk to families with children, they have difficulty parenting. The answer to the first question is that a child may have been abused sexually by aContinue reading “Does Your Child Have Sexualized Behaviors?”

Where Does Reactive Attachment Disorder Come From?

It’s really shattering when I read about parents’ rights to raise their children when the child has to be placed in foster care, which can last from days to when the child turns 18 and ages out. Twenty years ago, I worked with an advocacy group that was hired to review and offer suggestions onContinue reading “Where Does Reactive Attachment Disorder Come From?”

How to Be Proactive Parents of Children with RAD!

It’s always interesting how I sometimes get inspired to write on something that I feel is very important to families of children with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). I recently had a conversation with a client who was absolutely terrified, angry and everything in between to discuss her child’s RAD behaviors with a group of powerContinue reading “How to Be Proactive Parents of Children with RAD!”

Adoption Disability: R.A.D.

The other day someone wrote me and asked if Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is considered an adoption disability. It made me start to think. I honestly think it should be considered a special needs disability.  Children with RAD often have major learning disabilities. Their thought processes do not behave in understandable ways. It’s so surprisingContinue reading “Adoption Disability: R.A.D.”

Happy or Sad – with Children Affected By RAD

What makes a parent of a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) happy or sad? We all have different responses to our kids with RAD. Are they all bad? I don’t think so, even with the worst times, there have usually been good times as well. My daughter was really passive-aggressive when she wanted toContinue reading “Happy or Sad – with Children Affected By RAD”

November – National Adoption Month

I’ve heard it said by many adoptive parents of children with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) that they hate November because it’s National Adoption Month. Their dreams of a successful adoption had become nightmares. As an adoptive parent of a child with RAD, I sit in the middle of the discussions all the time. My birthdayContinue reading “November – National Adoption Month”

Control Issues in Children with R.A.D.

When thinking about the needs of children diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD), several things came to my mind. Almost all children with RAD have a need to control some part of their lives. Even as infants, children learn how to control their parents. They cry for food or when discomfortable with a wet diaper.Continue reading “Control Issues in Children with R.A.D.”