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I’ve been writing this adoption blog for several weeks. I realize that for people who have read most of my posts, they have an idea of who I am. For new readers and my followers, I decided it was important to give a quick synopsis of who I am.
Let me formally introduce myself. My name is N. Ann Lamphere, MSW. I’m a licensed adoption social worker. I have been involved in adoptions since 1976. If you ask me which type of adoptions I’m most familiar with, I have to admit to all of them.
The list includes international, infant, older children and special needs adoptions. I’m a single adoptive parent. I was the first single adoptive parent approved by Children’s Service Society of Utah (CSS) , a private agency and the first one approved by the State of Utah.
I’ve been an adoption agency director that worked with families adopting infants. That agency closed in 2007. I retired for about 6 months when I was asked to help Wasatch International Adoption Agency (WIAA) develop an infant adoption program.
A few years ago, I was asked to be the interim Director of Social Work for WIAA whose main program was international adoptions. I’m also the social worker for WIAA’s Second Chance for Kids program.
In 1976, I read a book on single adoptive parents. I had always wanted to have children. Marriage had eluded me, so I got up courage and investigated the possibilities. First I was approved by CSS (I had 3 different home studies in 2 years while I was with them.) Then I went to the State of Utah for a foster/adopt home study.
While waiting for my first child, I joined the Foster Care system and became a Foster Parent of 2 teenage girls. The first one was not a good fit. She liked to run away and the last time she took some of my clothes with her.
The second girl, Susan was a wonderful young lady of 16 who was a victim of child abuse. Her parents took in foster kids and it came out that not only was her father abusing her, he was also abusing the other kids. Susan stayed with me for about 8 months. She moved out to independent living when my daughter, Kara, from India arrived.
My daughter Kara’s story has been told in more details in my post, myadoptionlife.com/ Kara My RAD (Reactive Attachment Disorder) Daughter post. She was 10 going on 14 (literally). She arrived June 13. 1980.
After a couple of years, I wanted to adopt again. This time it didn’t take 4 years, it only took a couple of months. My new daughter, Kim, came from South Carolina’s Foster Care system. She was 14.
As social workers now know, it’s not a good thing to get kids out of birth order. Kim and I were really more compatible than Kara and I, but life between the 2 girls was tough.
When I discovered Kara was pregnant, I knew that I couldn’t handle raising Kim. She needed and deserved a quiet, loving family, which ours wasn’t right then. My biggest regret was disrupting Kim’s adoption.
The years between 1983 and 1985 were really stressful. Raising a child like Kara is always difficult. RAD has many features such as manipulation, stealing, lying, anger, tantrums. Add into that a boyfriend who wasn’t a good person and the result can be and was a disaster.
I began college in 1984 and graduated in 1987 with a BS in Psychology. I received my Masters of Social Work in 1992. I worked as a supervisor of social workers in 10 different nursing homes after graduation.
In late 1994 I was hired by Children’s Service Society adoption agency. By early 1997, I decided to open an agency of my own. I’d always wanted to be my own boss. By November, the agency was open and running. It took until February to get our first client and we were on our way.
Since 1994, I have been involved with 500 and more adoptive placements. I’ve lost count.
If you or someone you know has some adoption questions, I want to help you. You can message me on Facebook or email me at email@example.com. There is no cost for my services.
Adoption agencies in Utah that I support:
Wasatch International Adoptions
Children’s Service Society
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To go back to the beginning of My Adoption Story, go back to the first post: myadoptionlife.com/The Worst Time of My Life